Celebrate Good Times
I was talking with a dear friend the other day about a dilemma. Her daughter is making First Communion and her husband doesn’t think they should make a big deal about it (code for no celebration). She on the other hand, remembers her own First Communion and wants a celebration.
Before I give my opinion (because of course I have one), I read a post by Kelly Dolin on the Faith and Family Blog that reminds us about the true meaning First Communion. It’s a great post to keep things in perspective. That said, of course some type of First Communion celebration is called for. Would any of us dream of skipping a birthday celebration? Can you imagine the look on your child’s face if you decided to skip a birthday because it’s not a big deal? After all, there will be another one in 12 months.
Let’s face it, celebrating an occasion shows that you and your family consider it meaningful and worth commemorating. The real issue is the execution. One family may decide to have an elaborate catered celebration while another family may prefer an intimate gathering at home. I say, do what feels right to you. Of course, that’s easier said than done, if the mother and father disagree on how to celebrate. As with many of the issues we face, open communication and compromise are needed to find a solution. It’s important to discuss what the celebration means to you since the “emotional stuff” tends to trip us up. Is a parent ambiguous about religion? Does a big communion celebration feel wasteful? With a little soul searching the real issues should bubble to the surface so they can be addressed and a solution achieved.
Have you faced this issue or one similar? Share your thoughts in the comment section below.